- Open your phone book at least twice a week and pick a friend to call
- Check in with a local friend and schedule a lunch date for the month
- Take the time to think and reflect and write a personal touching letter to a dear friend
- Make a care package for an out of state friend
- Be more flexible and less flaky on scheduling time together
- Be thoughtful and offer help in any way needed gas money, studying together, a listening ear, babysitting days
- Write down a friend's accomplishment in my agenda and find a way to celebrate it. Perhaps bake their favorite sweets, offer dinner, buy a bouquet of their favorite flowers
Thursday, November 17, 2016
Thursday, November 10, 2016
There were so many good tidbits in the book with such passionate writing that I will mention here:
- She wore neat shoes, but they covered a sprawling account of an overtaxed life, and there was no hiding the truth when she took them off.
- Money was not a guarantor of dignity.
- In that regard he was more prepared for the loneliness of senescence than she was, He'd been a stranger in the world for most of his life.
- Every move he made had the imprimatur of purposefulness.
- This was his final gift to her: to silence her regrets about the paths she hadn't taken.
- "There's a reason he can't accept nice things" he said. "His family's been in this country a hundred years, they never owned a house. That's a sin. If you're not in a house by the time I'm dead, I'll haunt you from my grave."
- She resented the way Connell walked around oblivious of how carefree his existence was, how little responsibility he had.
- Seduction is all about focusing on the other person, good seducers pay great attention to detail, the other persons facial expressions, gestures, etc.
- Seduction should not be rushed at all, because all great seduction takes time.
- There is no better word than a rightly timed pause.
- Charm is a way of getting the answer yes without having had asked a clear question.
- Noticing a persons weakness and playing it to your advantage, by making a person more reliant on you.
Money, religion, and politics are three topics that are touchy sensitive areas at the dinner table among peers. It would be a lie to say class does not exist here in the United States, an even bigger lie to say class differences one day will cease to exists.. Classes are apart of all human societies but the traits, characteristics, values, and commonalities differ across cultures. This book is as witty as it is informative. The author's detailed observations are extremely on point and accurate even 30 years later after this was published. It's very interesting how even values are different across class lines in America. For example having a housewife in considered respectable in the middle class but with the lower and upper classes working women are the praised norm. I find myself rereading this book with new sentences to highlight every year since I've bought it.
- The rewards...in this life are esteem and admiration of others - the punishment are neglect and contempt.
- Because he is essentially a salesman, the middle class man develops a salesman style. Hence his optimism and his belief in the likelihood of self improvement if you'll just hurl yourself into it.
- The degree to which your work is overseen by a supervisor suggests your real class more accurately than the amount you take home from it.
- the upper class'es inattention to ideas is why Arnold call them Barbarian, and he imputes their serenity specifically to they're "never having had any ideas to trouble them."
- Another way to estimate a city's undesirability is to measure the degree to which religious fundamentalism is identifies with it.
- Because 62% of Americans are overweight, a cheap way to achieve a sort of distinction is to be thin.